“Reblog if your idea of sleeping with someone is actually falling asleep with them beside you.”
You know what fuck this.
you know, 500$ isnt so much……..
MADE TO ORDER Steampunk inspired wedding/prom dress/ gown by LyndseyBoutique. 496.36 USD
OH MY GOD I WANT IT SO BAD
Want. WANT. GIMME.
I will save to get married on this.
People assume that sexuality is a strict principle of male and female, but actually from a non-ignorant, non-subjective viewpoint - it’s more like a big ball of wibbly-wobbly sexy-wexy stuff.
thegirlwiththedragonairtattoo:
#this is my sexy-wexy detector #it goes ‘bing’ when there’s sex
#be like captain jack harkness #and touch who you wanna touch
I’m feeling generous today, so I’ll be glad to give away one of my steampunk super heart necklaces free to one person who reblogs this!
The rules are the usual:
You can only reblog once, no creating fake accounts. You have to be willing to surrender your address in order for me to mail it to you. And I’ll decide at the end of April who gets the heart. :3
Damage
This is not my usual post. But it’s something I had to share. As you read this, imagine how your reaction would differ if this story were being told by a woman, talking about how her husband treated her.
I have been separated from my wife for over a year, though we continue to share a house. We live on separate floors. We share the house because we need to parent our son together, and because we can’t afford to maintain two households.
I’d like to tell you a story, illustrating one reason why I am divorcing her. This is an example of the treatment I have received over the past fourteen years.
This evening, while she was drinking her wine, my estranged wife took exception to the fact that I wanted to talk about how tense she’s been. She said she didn’t want to talk about it.
I left the room (so as to comply with her request).
I went upstairs to use our tiny guest bathroom. She began to yell and throw things around the kitchen, then eventually charged up the stairs and into the bathroom, just as I was finishing and getting ready to leave. She confronted me there, holding her half-full wine glass in her hand. Her voice got louder, her gestures wilder.
She complained that I had upset her by wanting to talk when she had told me she didn’t want to talk. As I began to feel uncomfortable, I said, “You’re saying it’s my fault you can’t express your emotions responsibly like an adult?”
She said, “Yes!! It’s because you want to go off and take a vacation with your girlfriend!” Then she threw the contents of her glass in my face and smashed it against my bare chest.
The results are pictured here.
I stood there, with shattered glass at my feet, glass shards sticking in my skin, bleeding, for five minutes or so. I asked her to move so that I could leave. She waved the broken stem of the glass in the air and said, “Leave!! Who’s stopping you?”
I told her she was standing between me and the door. I felt threatened.
She laughed and said, “You’re 6 foot 3 and 250 pounds! You can’t feel threatened by me!”
I said, “You just broke a glass on my chest and cut me. You’re standing there with the stem in your hands. Yes. I feel threatened.
She said, “No, you don’t.”
I asked her to move out of the way and let me pass. I didn’t want her to think I was pushing her or threatening her.
She held her ground, waved the broken stem and shouted, “Go on! Leave! I’m not stopping you!”
After I asked her repeatedly, she finally moved a bit and I left, carefully stepping over the broken glass.
I have posted this here as evidence, and to help those who may think that size and gender make a difference when abuse is concerned. People who, like my estranged, think some have permission to feel threatened and some don’t.
Abusers come in all sizes and genders.
She and I went to a half dozen therapists over the years. At each initial session, every therapist took a look at me, then at her (5’4” 150 lbs.). Then he or she would gravely ask my wife, “Do you feel safe?”
None ever thought to ask me.
Thanks for listening.
Because this needs to be shared. Because abuse is wrong no matter what. Because this saddens my heart.
:(
honestly, fuck tumblr. if this was a woman this would be the only thing on my dash.
with that being said, fuck people who think that women are the only ones that can be abused in a relationship. and fuck crazy women, as well.
Fuck abuse. This should have the ten thousand notes that every women’s domestic abuse case has.
Regards,
IIF
I’m glad to see something like this on my dashboard finally. Not the fact that he got abused by his wife, but to show that not only women are victims of abuse (like so many women claim). It’s a shame that so many stupid people out there think -and defend- only women when it comes to abuse and not men.
Jesus christ OP that’s horrible ;n;
And yes guys, Men can be abused by woman to. It’s just men are sometimes to afraid to get help by the fact they’ll be judged as weak or as a pansy.Why the FUCK doesn’t this have several million notes like every other post about domestic violence with a godamn woman?
amen. Abuse towards anyone in any form is no fucking joke.
Hey, guys?
This isn’t a zero sum game. Just because this legit doesn’t make the violence against women any less legit. Abuse against anyone is fucking horrible, be they man, woman, transgender, genderqueer, etc.
Let’s not feel like we have to discount the other posts to make room for this one, okay?
Abuse if abuse no matter the gender.
